If you mean “What should you never do during intimacy?”, the most important rules are about consent, safety, and respect.
Things you should never do during intimacy
- Never ignore a “no,” “stop,” hesitation, or withdrawal of consent. Consent can be withdrawn at any moment, even after intimacy has already started.
- Never pressure, guilt, threaten, manipulate, or coerce someone into sexual activity. A person agreeing because they feel pressured is not giving freely given consent.
- Never assume consent. Being married, dating, previously having sex, kissing, being naked, or agreeing to one activity does not automatically mean agreeing to another.
- Never continue if someone is unconscious or too intoxicated to consent. Someone who is asleep, passed out, or unable to understand what is happening cannot provide valid consent.
- Never deliberately remove or avoid agreed protection. If you agreed to use a condom, for example, changing that without your partner’s knowledge undermines informed consent and increases STI/pregnancy risks.
- Never ignore pain or physical discomfort. Stop, communicate, and figure out what is comfortable for both people.
- Never treat your partner’s boundaries as an inconvenience. Healthy intimacy involves communicating what you want, what you don’t want, and respecting each other’s limits.
- Never assume porn is a guide to real-life intimacy. Real intimacy requires communication and mutual agreement rather than copying what is portrayed on screen.
The simplest rule
If you’re unsure, stop and ask. Healthy consent is freely given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic, and specific.
If by “watch this before it’s too late” you meant a specific video/topic or a particular sexual practice, tell me what you’re referring to and I can explain the safety issues in detail.